The Dating Game: The Balancing Act

February 27, 2008

By Brandi Miller

The most important relationship in your life is not the romantic one or the relationship you have with your family. It isn’t with co-workers, or a mentor. In life it’s often hard to find a friend that you can tell anything to, things that others cannot understand or things that most people will judge you for. If you are lucky, you will find a best friend sometime in your life who you can tell all of this to, one who you can call night or day, and know that he or she will be there for you, no matter what.

Best friends are there for you and you for them, through all the good and bad. They’re the ones that hold your hand when you are down, give you their last beer (or for the ladies- tampon), watch your back when you say too much in the wrong place, or dry your tears when your own relationship does the inevitable crash and burn. They will sit up with you all night dissecting the entire span of your “doomed from the beginning” love affair and agree with you that none of it was your fault, it was all the other person’s and you are much better off without them.

When you meet a new person and become a couple you want to spend as much time together as possible. You can’t seem to get enough of that new guy or girl and think about them constantly. It often seems to those around you that you put everyone else in your life on hold. This is fine to do as long as it is a temporary hold and not a hold that stretches over months and months because some resentment may begin to build up and sour your friendship which may cause irreparable damage.

Friends rely on each other for support and companionship and they need at least a little attention in this beautiful and awe inspiring time of your life (you know, the time you have with a new love before finding out all of the annoying little habits that they hid while in the wooing stage?). Yes, of course your friends are happy for you, but if you neglect them for too long, those old friendships will begin to wither and die like that houseplant you forgot to water for weeks on end.

 It’s very important to find a balance between a new romantic relationship and the friendships you cherish. Don’t take it for granted that those friends will automatically be there for you after you repeatedly break plans with them, or stop answering the phone when they call because you are with your new squeeze (even though you answer each and every time he or she calls when you are with your friends). Always make time for your friends; do the things you have always done with them because they need you as much as you need them and that friendship was as important to them as it was to you. If you don’t keep up with them who will be there for you when that new guy or girl you thought was so perfect ended up being the worst mistake of your life and you need a shoulder to cry on? Friends and houseplants can both be replaced with fake ones, but the real ones are the best kind and sometimes a truly good one is hard to find.   


One Response to “The Dating Game: The Balancing Act”

  1. Nowellfp Says:

    omg.. good work, dude

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